We all worry. Why do we worry all the time? Getting this under control is one of the greatest things Magic does. We as a human race are constantly looking for problems and danger. We look for something to happen. No matter how good things get, we constantly play out worst case scenarios in our mind. Most people think this is a good thing. They are simply wrong. It fills us with anxiety and we get addicted to the anxiety. You will never eliminate worrying, but you can understand that worrying is worthless.
When you worry you don’t get good results in your life and it makes you not feel good. It makes you feel frantic and anxious. It causes you to self sabotage. You focus on something and you actually attract it to you. What you think about you bring about. I just got back from a vacation. We flew out to Phoenix and my mind wanted to get me to think about the bad things that could happen. What if the flight has a mechanical delay? What if our rental car breaks down? What if our reservations were messed up at the resort? What if, what if, what if. If I focused on these worries, I would not have had a good time. What most do is they focus on the bad that pops into their mind and it makes their motivation go way down.
The ancients called this the troll or gremlin in the mind. It is the troll or gremlin in your mind that is doing this. People will worry so much and cause the thing to happen that they worry about and then they will say their worrying was justified. When if fact they brought it upon themselves. The thing with worrying is that is spikes the emotion of anxiety and fear. When you set things in your mind with emotion it makes them stronger. Your mind thinks that’s what you want so it brings it to you. Then your mind gets into a vicious loop.
First you need to understand that worrying is not your fault. If you have read Lemurian Magic, you understand that chaos has been with the human race from the beginning. Our race has had catastrophic things happen from the very beginning. It is why the human race is how it is. When things get good we worry about bad things happening. When bad things don’t happen we make bad things happen because we are addicted to the feeling. Our mind wants to bring bad things to the fore front. We live in a world of duality. Bad things will happen, but we as a human race keep thinking about bad things and actually bring on bad things because we are addicted to it. It is just like a new born who’s mother was addicted to a drug while she was pregnant. That new born will be addicted to that drug and will probably seek that drug out their whole life. This is the human race! We were born addicted to the drug of chaos. Our mind seeks it out! We are addicted to fear and anxiety and we want that drug.
Worrying is useless. You will never eliminate them, but you can reduce the worrying or make them not as bad. Worrying drains your energy. It drains you psychic energy and mental resources. When you focus on the worrying you start to worry more. Your vibration starts to change and your mind brings in more negative worrying(see Are Your Thoughts Your Own?). When you start to worry, catch yourself and ask your mind, why are you doing this? What is the purpose of this negative worrying? Let the ego side of you mind know that you are in charge now and you will focus on all the cool, fun, good things that will happen instead of the bad. That is exactly what I do anytime I get caught into a worry spiral. This process can be rather amusing if you listen to yourself argue with your own ego. It is what Gollum in Lord of the Rings was based on.
The ego is the infantile side of the mind. If you yell at yourself and talk down to yourself in your own head, it will just feed the tantrums and worrying that your ego will do in the future. You need to be gentle with your own ego. Just like a child will not respond well to negative motivation, neither will your ego. Negative motivation will work, but it’s not high quality and will not last for long. Besides why would you want to motivate yourself with pain when you can motivate yourself with ambitions, pleasure and desire. Become aware of yourself by monitoring your own thoughts. Be honest with yourself. If you are a constant worrier and all you do is think negative thoughts all the time, make a catastrophe about situations, worry about stuff that is out of your control or if you worry about things and stuff does not work out for you then you need to admit to yourself that the infant ego is in control. This is valuable insight to have about yourself. With this you can bring awareness to your worrying.
Your thoughts create your feelings and emotions. If you are anxious and low energy all the time then its your thoughts that’s doing it to you. It creates frustration and negative feelings. Try to focus on the positive outcomes when you catch yourself worrying. When I catch myself worrying about the negativity I will get with what I say on my blog, I switch that to focusing on all the people I will help by releasing info that is very hard to find. I focus on the chains that I break others from. How breaking the chains made my life better and how it will help others who want to break the chains too. Even if you have done the rejecting thoughts and accepting thoughts exercise I show in Magic, this exercise on focusing on the positive outcomes will help you too.
This is the beginning of inner work and understanding yourself. Im not telling you that all your fear is bad. There is such a thing as realistic fear. You would not be alive without realistic fear, but worrying brings on unrealistic fear. So other people will tell you that you have to get rid of all your fear. Realistic fear is necessary. It keeps you from doing stupid things that will get you hurt or killed. Unrealistic fear is when you experience fear or anxiety when there is no real threat. It’s all in your head. It is all the ego doing it. I can not stress this enough, it’s not your fault. Our minds are addicted to anxiety because of our history. Here are three more things that will help you get the worrying under control.
- Put yourself in new situations. Experience the world. Learn things for yourself. Part of the reason a lot of people worry is they live a sheltered life. Remember back the first time you started something new like your job. You worried about every last little thing until you got used to doing it and it became routine. All the unrealistic fears you had caused anxiety. When you get out and do new things your mind will worry, but do the exercise I just showed you. Then when you go do the new things you like again, there will be less anxiety and you will have learned new things.
- Break the feedback loop of your mind. Whatever your internal state is, your emotional state or your regular state, it will be how you perceive the world. We all live in this world but perceive it different. It is our relativity. We will all tune in to things that keep that inner state alive. When you start to get into a worry spiral, you will look for things to reinforce your worrying. Then you worry more and look for more reinforcement. Break that loop. Make yourself focus on the positive outcomes. This is why I say cut out the news. All of the news is to keep you in a negative feedback loop. Change your influences.
- Re-own what you have disowned about yourself. Think of a time in your life where you were made fun of or shamed for something you did that was outside the norm of the masses. Maybe you had an outfit you loved and wore it to school and got made fun of, so you never wore it again and started wearing what everyone else was wearing. Maybe you spoke up about something and were shamed by a teacher for not going with what’s in the text book. It may not sound like much, but to a kid it is traumatic and overwhelming. As a kid, your world is all you knew. To not fit in literally feels like you will die to a kid. When you were shamed or ridiculed your survival instinct kicked in and disowned certain parts of yourself, so you could fit in. You have lived your life that way ever since. When certain things come up in your life today that trigger you, it makes you feel like you did when you were a kid. Realistically being different is not dangerous, but our mind makes it out to be dangerous. Re-own who you are and validate who you really are. Look for things that trigger you, the things make your mind start to worry and give you anxiety. Those are things you have disowned about yourself. People try to stay out of situations that trigger them, but if you let yourself be triggered it brings it out so you can bring awareness to it.
Apply all of this to your life and it will help slow the worrying down. These are what helped me. No one knows you better than yourself. Magicians, Witches and Wizards use the subconscious side of the mind to help them think. It is the part of the mind that has been around since the beginning. Using it will not eliminate worrying, but it will help bring the worrying ego under control.